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Morgan Harper Nicholes

Morgan Harper Nicholes

Sup Sup beautiful beings! Welcome back! As you may know, the next 14 posts I’ll be sharing some helpful and useful information around cultivating and deepening an authentic relationship with your self-compassion.


So what is self-compassion? Well, it’s just what it sounds like. It means being compassionate towards yourself. Now before you roll your eyes and scroll on allow me to go on, that’s just the simplest answer. It means honoring yourself and appreciating when life is going alright, as well as being gentle, kind and forgiving to yourself when life is hard. So much of our discomfort comes from constantly criticizing ourselves and other people. Perhaps we’ve felt depressed and anxious all our lives, maybe you can pinpoint to some specific terrible thing that happened to us. Or maybe we might believe that life should be different than it is, or that we won't be lovable until we get rid of whatever we think is wrong with us. While this may be true, it’s possible to feel loved, accepted, and appreciated for being exactly who we are. We can know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we are fundamentally OK - and even more! Innately we have a wise voice that knows we are fascinating and unique human beings. We can learn to hear that voice, more importantly, believe it. When life is going well self-compassion gives us permission to relish it without feeling guilty. We know that we deserve good things in life - not because we are better than other people, but because we are human beings. Compassion isn't something we have to earn. It comes from the recognition that everyone is born with basic human worth.

Perhaps, you need more education around what “basic human worth” means if so check out my first post ‘Self Compassion is a Skill’ for more information and resources around anti-racism, dismantling white supremacy, and intersectional bias.

Self-compassion is exceptionally important when handling any challenges in our life. When we really struggling - feeling afraid, depressed, angry, or lonely - what we need most are understanding and love. The trouble is that we can’t always rely on other people to be there when we need them. Even if we have a fantastic support system, many of us find it difficult to open ourselves up to love from others.

Yet, if we can establish a source of deep understanding and compassion within ourselves, it is always there when we need it. It solidifies the foundation for greater strength, resilience, and peace of mind. And fortunately, this is possible for anyone who is willing to practice.

Homework (if you feel); journal or chat with a friend 1. When life is going well… 2. When life feels hard… write out 3 examples of what your self-critical attitude sounds like when thinking about 1. (ex. People are going to discover I’m a phony.) Now do this again but this time with a self-compassionate attitude (ex. If people really understood me, they’d like me.) Now go on to 2. Again writing 3 examples one with self-critical ‘tude (ex. If I wasn’t so stupid, I wouldn’t have to deal with this.) and now with a self-compassionate ‘tude (ex. Every human being experiences suffering, no matter how many virtues they have.)

Check back for next post ‘Self-Compassion. Self-Esteem. There’s a Difference.’

Blessings xxx

Magda



SELF COMPASSION IS A SKILL?

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Harnessing appreciatively the auspicious beginnings a new moon offers us all. Today starts the first post out of 15 where I share mindfulness-based techniques to transform your relationship with yourself by creating, establishing, nurturing and/or strengthening a self-compassionate mindset.


But first...You up for a challenge?


By committing to taking time after each of these 15 posts, to digest, contemplate, practice, sit, move, meditate (in whatever way that means to you), journal, pull tarot cards, talk to your crystals, meet up and discuss with your friends, family, you are planting the seeds deep within, and just as the snow and cold will eventually shift to the newness of spring and flowers blooming and warmer weather drying out our wet bones - your inner self, higher self, IN YOUR POWER BIRTHRIGHT SELF, will shine through. This difference between negative emotions, our self-critical brain, anxiousness, and the big one - not being happy CAN and will begin to shift and change. However, just reading these posts will not do the work for you. Yes, there is work! Lots of it! And at times it is going to challenge everything you know, believe, and experience. In fact, doing this work will open you up to more areas in life and the collective experience that require you to show up for yourself, and for others. An enlightened community can be created and cultivated by coming together to share and talk on what you are learning and experiencing whilst doing your work, this challenge even.  You are the most vital and important piece to this ACTUALLY working out in your favor. Simply put, the secret ingredient will be your time! Are you willing to accept this invitation and create the time needed for you to see results?

I feel that is important to emphasize that I am not saying that I have the answer or the know how to YOUR happiness, I, however,  am humbly offering insight and tools for you to add to your ever-growing cosmic toolbox of the self. Our cultural awareness is a pivotal point in our desire for liberation. I believe, your achieving happiness is directly related to the liberation of all sentient beings. This means your work not only involves changing your relationship with your self-critical mind, and deepening if not connecting to your self-compassionateness (perhaps for the first time) but MOST IMPORTANTLY in your work by showing up for indigenous, black, brown, trans, disabled, and able-bodied people of color who’s very existence on this planet created the path of a liberated, love-full, auspiciously blessed life. It is by their rightful power and allowance that white folx will ever experience emancipation in its truest form. I invite you to absorb this information and future content in regards to self-compassion to first go within to show up for yourself and there move beyond and go forth to be of service and assistance to all. I’ve listed resources that pertain specifically to educating yourself in understanding and dismantling, white supremacy, and intersectional bias. These individuals have put their time and effort and are urging us to do the work. Here are some people that are muy importante to read up on, follow, subscribe, and pay them for their offerings, education, and insight. This list is in no particular order;

Rachel Rickets

A thought leader + outspoken champion for womxn of colour. I educate on anti-racism and inclusion, helping white folx address white supremacy, POC heal from internalized oppression and offering spiritual tools for all hue-mans to commit to the solution.

https://www.rachelricketts.com/


Layla F. Saad

A write, speaker, podcast host & radical justice advocate whose work explores the intersections of race, spirituality, feminism & leadership.

http://laylafsaad.com/

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https://www.meandwhitesupremacybook.com/


Rachel Cargle

an activist, writer, and lecturer. Her activist and academic work are rooted in providing intellectual discourse, tools, and resources that explore the intersection of race and womanhood. Her social media platforms boast a community of over 40k where Rachel guides conversations, encourages critical thinking and nurtures meaningful engagement with people all over the world.

https://www.rachelcargle.com/


Erika Hart

A kinky, poly, cancer-warrior, activist, sexuality educator and performer with a Master’s of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University, Ericka Hart has taught sexuality education for elementary aged youth to adults across New York City for the past 10  years.

http://www.ihartericka.com/bio/

Compassion isn’t some kind of self-improvement project or ideal that we’re trying to live up to. Having compassion starts and ends with having compassion for all those unwanted parts of ourselves, all those imperfections that we don’t even want to look at.
— Pema Chodron

Let me know in the comments if you're in! Or go bold and make a post, add to your story, tweet about it, Facebook announce that you are on a journey of self-compassion, along with me. Tag #bbmagda so I can see and engage with you. #tagafriend who could benefit from this, commit to doing this challenge together!  #accoutabilitypartner

(btw - blessing and gentle entry into this new moon in Aquarius! Interested in more about her check out my Instagram story for the deetz.)  Tune in on Wednesday, 2.6.19 for the next post about what self-compassion means.

Blessings Xxx

Magda




JUSTICE & THE HIGHPRIESTESS

Justice & The High Priestess - BBMAGDA's bringing the second of Cardinal Virtues. Beginning of understanding of Universal Law: our "fortune" is a matter of a confluence of many different factors including the person that we have become. The true meaning of this understanding is that we are only in control of our own minds. MANGDA's bringing what part of you is truly you? The high priestess has the knowledge of the past and the esoteric, all human history and the collective unconscious out, and our intuitive knowledge of these things. Has your intuitive voice been encouraged to grow over time, or has it been silenced? (7⭐️) Goddess Mangda I love you so much! Connecting cross country via psychic texts! Xo#soinlovewithmyfriends