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Self-Esteem is NOT...

Pretty much every kind of mental health problem can be associated with low self-esteem, depression, lack of motivation and for most of us we know low self-esteem is ‘bad.’ But did you know that high self-esteem can be a problem as well?

Self-esteem means judging or evaluating yourself positively. It attributes to our self-worth, perceived value, or how much we like ourselves. You believe you are a good person, and you identify with your strengths. However, research has shown that for most of us, believing we are good is so closely related to believing we are better than other people. In modern western culture is not ok to be average, we have to feel above average in order to feel good about ourselves. We adhere towards a stand-out mentality, with hyperfocus on how much we are special and different than everyone else.

This is the main problem with being overly focused on self-esteem. If I need to believe that I am better than other people in order to have high self-esteem, it can make me more likely to criticize others, and more fearful of people seeing my weaknesses. I can become too competitive and fragile when receiving negative feedback. We tend to get angry and aggressive towards anyone who has said or done anything that potentially makes us feel bad about ourselves. Narcissistic and self-absorbed behavior is on a high rise as the new normal. And still even with so much high self-esteem, we may feel it is often dependant on our latest success or failure, meaning self-esteem fluctuates depending on our ever-changing circumstances.

Celebrated 34 years on Earth on the Ides of March.

Celebrated 34 years on Earth on the Ides of March.

On the other hand, when you have self-compassion you don’t care if you are better, worse, or the same s anyone else. Self-compassion means relating to yourself with a kind and forgiving attitude no matter what is happening. Self-compassion isn’t dependent on external circumstances, it’s always available.

When we relate to ourselves with self-compassion, there's no need to put other people down. We aren’t afraid of the occasional failures, or even falling flat on our face because we can see them as valuable learning instead of threats to our self-worth. Researchers have found that self-compassion actually improves our motivation to succeed because we aren't so worried about making mistakes. We don’t need to be perfect, special, different, or stand-out in order to be lovable.

GENTLE & HAPPY BLESSINGS TO YOUR SPRING EQUINOX, FULL MOON IN LIBRA, AND ARIES SEASON!!!

xxx

Magda

SAG FULL MOON - PRACTICE GIAN MUDRA

June 9th, 2017

🌝♐️ BLESSINGS! GYAN or GIAN MUDRA is here to assist us all as we continue to sink further into the intense effects this Sagittarius full moon has on us. Our hearts pathway. A journey has begun! And there's really no way any of us bypassed retrograde Jupiter (this planets' energy is connected to your index finger) traveling through Libra! Seriously, since early this year good ol'Jup in retro shined a mega massive spotlight on allllll our relationships! AWARENESS being the headline, main content and emphasis - our relationship with ourselves. It was a fucking doozy! Feelings of self doubt seeping into the psyche really taking some of us into some of the most painful places we may have believed we would never ever have to experience again or perhaps for the first time you are really feeling pain and suffering that feels Jupiter sized - either way Jupiter as gently as this MEGA planet could showing us where we lack self confidence and confidence in your decisions, always trying to measure up to the culture's or to someone else's expectation of you. And because the bar has been set so unrealistically high for anyone - we have consistently and constantly "failed." Judging ourselves to the point of the deepest depressions and because we are here and others are here we mirror this pain to one another. IT IS TIME FOR THIS FLASE TRUTH TO END. The GYAN MUDRA just one additional tool to remove the veil, break the glass, the illusion the lie. This MUDRA evokes the most expansive version of the self so you can FLOW through life's lessons with ease and calm. Bringing forward your highest self. The pointer finger (Jupiter, head, brain) touches the thumb (will & logic) fingers are straight but relaxed stimulates the ROOT CHAKRA and GROUNDS. This is a calming concentration improving hand gesture. As always many many blessings sweet creatures. I love you! And I am so GRATEFUL you are here! 

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